oh my godddddd there is a new swedish reality tv show where they are tracking down internet trolls and confronting them about the death threats they’ve sent to people, since it’s actually illegal.
watching them try to explain how it’s not them is the best entertainment i’ve ever seen.
this episode ended with them fining him 5000 SEK to be paid to the victim!
guess what America should do
guess what America won’t do
timecurve asked: ""It's about having the confidence to say I don't want to do this" @CarrieHFletcher on pressure in #relationships " what the HECK
The full quote [1:56 in the video]:
Jimmy: What should you do if you feel pressured within a relationship to maybe have sex, or to send explicit pictures, or to do anything you don’t feel comfortable with?
Carrie: It’s about having the confidence and the self-esteem and the self-respect to say ‘I don’t want this’, ‘I don’t wanna do this.’
(Note: this quote is followed by a discussion on consent, which is important, but it does approach it from the angle of ‘oh that can be quite romantic’ rather than ‘hey that’s a legal obligation’.)
Some people are saying that those who have been upset by this are “twisting Carrie’s words” - these were her exact words. Nobody needs to ‘twist’ them to see that she’s implying that victims are somehow at fault when they’re being pressured or coerced if they don’t say ‘no’.
When you say that you need to have the confidence or self-respect to say no, you’re implying that people who DON’T say “no” or “I don’t want to do this” in those situations are doing so because of a LACK of self-respect or confidence. That they don’t say no because of some personal failing, and that if they had self-respect, they would be able to say no and this might have changed the outcome. This directly puts some of the blame on the victims of coercion or abuse. THIS IS HARMFUL. It doesn’t matter if that’s ‘not how she meant it’ as some people are claiming, because that’s exactly how she said it, and that’s how many viewers will understand it. If that’s really not what she meant, she has to accept that it’s what she implied, and that that responsibility lies with her and the 401 Show not with the victims of abuse who’ve been hurt by her words. Their feelings are the most important thing in this situation.
When you mess up and you make victims of abuse feel worse about what happened to them, you apologise. You take responsibility. That’s on you.
I interviewed a woman who is terminally ill. ‘So,’ I tried to delicately ask, ‘What is it like to wake up every morning and know that you are dying?’ ‘Well,’ she responded, ‘What is it like to wake up every morning and pretend that you are not?’
I’d like to make it clear that when I said in this video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jg6166asgx0 it’s about finding the confidence and having the self-esteem and self-respect to say no, I in no way meant to imply that it is a victims fault for not saying no. If you have been abused it is your…
“I don’t want people to like her anymore, almost, that sounds really, really bad.I want people to realize that actually she’s not the same anymore. You can’t root for her forever, because she’s not there to be your favorite character. That’s not what she’s there for. She’s real. People go down bad paths and they make bad decisions, but it’s always justified in their head. I want the audience to differentiate that and not just be like, ‘Oh, it’s Arya, we love her.’ Because actually look at what Arya’s doing. She’s being eaten away from the inside out, and she’s not stopping it.” - about Arya
……WHATS SAD IS I HAVE SEVERAL GREAT GUYS I GAME WITH AND THEYA RE SWEETHEARTS AND NOT THE ASSHOLES WHO MAKE FUN OF FEMALE GAMERS
AND I ONCE DID THIS AND OMG I WAS LIKE COVERED WITH AMO AND I LAUGHED ALL
'AWW YEEEA MY MAN WHORES KNOW HOW TO KEEP MAMA HAPPY'
AND I SWEAR THEY LAUGHED SO MUCH ONE CHOKED ON A CIGARETTE LKSDHFLHK
At first I thought this was going to be one of those “gamer girl” posts about how “girls suck at video games lolzor” and I was like ugh, running out of ammo is a normal thing it doesn’t make you bad gamer and being a girl doesn’t make you a bad gamer. THEN I SAW THE REST OF THE GIF OMF
this whole post is full of cute omg